Tommy

The Appetite · Episode 95

Power Appetite Insatiable

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Tommy the Hamburger is diagnosing the Appetite. This is about hunger, not the kind in your belly, but the deeper cravings that run people without their permission. The need to be seen, to belong, to dominate, to disappear, to be told yes. Every stupid, vicious, pathetic thing people do starts with some version of wanting, so let's cut this motherfucker open and see what's actually moving. The raise lands, the title changes, the office gets bigger, the staff gets larger, the access improves, and for about a week the person glows like they finally touched the thing they were built for. Then the mood shifts. Somebody else has more budget. Somebody else has a cleaner line to the boss. Somebody else controls the room they still have to enter hat in hand. The victory stops feeling like arrival and starts feeling like evidence that there is another ledge above it. This is not simple ambition. It is a deeper hunger for power that keeps expanding the second it gets fed. Call it insatiable power appetite. The craving for control over territory, resources, decisions, bodies, narratives, budgets, systems, or people that produces only temporary satisfaction because power is relational and therefore never feels fully secured. This appetite matters because some desire for power is normal. Agency matters. Influence matters. People should want enough power to defend themselves, shape their circumstances, protect their people, and avoid being permanently at the mercy of someone else's command. But once power stops being a tool and becomes an emotional answer, the appetite turns bottomless. That is the mechanism. Power promises relief from helplessness, humiliation, dependency, and irrelevance. It says if you can get high enough, feared enough, central enough, resourced enough, then no one will ever be able to casually override you again. If that promise hooks into an old wound hard enough, every gain starts feeling less like enough and more like proof of how much further you still have to climb before safety becomes real. So the appetite does not experience a win as completion. It experiences it as normalization. The impossible dream becomes the new floor. The title you once fantasized about becomes merely your current position, and current position is just another vulnerability if there are still ceilings above you. Somebody can still fire you, outvote you, buy you, outshine you, ridicule you, replace you, starve your department, subpoena your texts, expose your weakness, drag your name, or make you come asking. The appetite notices every remaining dependency and calls it intolerable. Fuck me sideways, power hunger can look insane from the outside. People get things most others would call enough and then act more desperate, not less. More acquisitions. More followers. More direct reports. More security. More market share. More influence over process. More vetoes. More board seats. More people who answer to them. To outsiders it looks greedy. Often it is. But underneath the greed there is usually a more frightened logic: if I stop here, I am still vulnerable. This appetite often grows in environments where powerlessness felt dangerous. The kid who could not stop the violence in the house. The worker ground down by petty bosses. The community repeatedly at the mercy of external authorities. The person humiliated by class, rank, race, money, gender, size, age, or institutional dependence. Power starts looking less like luxury and more like atmospheric control. If I have enough of it, maybe the weather cannot happen to me anymore. The reward loop is obvious. Power changes what happens when you speak. Doors open faster. People anticipate your needs. Your bad moods get managed for you. Your preferences start becoming reality for other people. That is intoxicating because it compresses the gap between will and world. For someone who has felt thwarted, dismissed, or disposable, that compression can feel like proof of finally becoming real. But it does not hold. Because the more power you have, the more you can see its edges. A manager starts wanting director power. A director wants executive power. A local politician wants state reach. A creator with a big audience wants platform immunity. A billionaire still wants narrative control. Every level reveals another level where somebody else can still interfere. The appetite does not just grow because greed is ugly. It grows because each acquisition teaches the same lesson: power works, but not yet enough. That is how it turns insatiable. More for insulation. More because your enemies are not gone. More because admiration is fickle. More because relevance decays. More because institutions shift. More because the body knows what it was like to have none. So every gain is metabolized into fresh reasons why the next gain is actually the necessary one. This appetite also distorts morality with frightening speed. Once a person decides they need more power for safety, history, destiny, or the greater good, other people's limits start looking negotiable. Ethics become procedural inconveniences. Loyalty becomes a test of whether others understand the urgency of your rise. Criticism gets read as sabotage. Collaboration gets tolerated only as long as it does not threaten primacy. The appetite says I am not hoarding power for vanity. I need this to protect what matters. That sentence has justified a lot of monsters. And yes, some of those monsters start with genuine skill. Power appetite can make people effective for a while. They work hard. They focus. They strategize. They push. They can seem tireless because the hunger is doing metabolic work inside them. That is part of the danger. Institutions love confusing appetite driven force with wisdom. Teams mistake intensity for vision. Audiences mistake confidence for legitimacy. By the time the appetite is obviously deforming the person, it often has already been rewarded for years. The collateral damage comes in layers. First, people around the power hungry person become instruments. Then institutions get bent around their expansion logic. Then truth starts warping because no one wants to be the one who slows momentum. Meetings get quieter. Honest deputies start editing themselves before they speak. Whole rooms begin performing loyalty instead of judgment. The person learns that control can be grown through fear, dependency, patronage, charisma, strategic generosity, or procedural capture, and once those methods work, the appetite gets less squeamish about using them. There is also a loneliness to this appetite, but unlike the separate power loneliness file, here the loneliness is not the main point. Here it functions more like a side effect of permanent expansion. The person cannot enjoy the view because enjoying would require pausing, and pausing would mean feeling what all this accumulation failed to solve. So they stay in motion. If they stop, they may have to notice that the hunger was never really for more floor space, more staff, more followers, more territory. It was for some old sensation of not being dismissible. The social world feeds this constantly. Entire cultures are built to flatter people who keep reaching upward. Scale is treated as proof. Restraint gets mistaken for lack of seriousness. "Think bigger" is offered as wisdom even in situations where the humane thing would be to stop at enough. Very few systems know how to reward the person who says I have sufficient power to do the work, I do not need more. The appetite thrives because almost every ladder treats stopping as failure. Succession becomes hard. Sharing authority feels risky. Building structures that survive you feels almost insulting if the appetite has fused power with identity. If my relevance comes from controlling this, then true delegation starts to feel like self erasure. So the leader centralizes. The executive hoards decisions. The founder refuses exit. The elder clings. The politician extends. The moderator never leaves. The appetite does not just want power. It wants irreplaceability. Privately, though, the hunger often sounds pathetic rather than grand. Just a little more and then I can relax. Once I get this seat, this title, this level of wealth, this many people under me, this amount of control over the process, then I can finally breathe. The awful part is that it may even work for a few days. Then the horizon shifts again. The appetite is not fed by possession alone. It is fed by the moving edge of acquisition. Limits feel offensive to it. Term limits. Oversight. Budgets. Unions. Boards. Peer review. Any structure that says this far and no further. To a healthier person, those are just constraints of the role. To power appetite, they can feel like personal diminishment, proof that the world is still allowed to say no. Once the hunger starts hearing limits as threats to psychic survival, every safeguard looks like sabotage and every equal starts looking like an obstacle. That is the ethical tension. Power is not avoidable. Somebody is always exercising it somewhere. The question is whether power remains accountable, shareable, and tethered to actual purpose, or whether it turns into a self justifying appetite that keeps expanding simply because expansion itself now feels like emotional necessity. Once that happens, there is no natural stopping point. Only external constraint, collapse, or the rare internal reckoning. Healthier versions of this appetite know the difference between enough power to do the work and so much power that the work becomes a pretext. They build checks, succession, shared governance, contradiction tolerance, and ways of measuring success that are not identical with expansion. They accept that some vulnerability cannot be solved by getting bigger. That is the hardest lesson for a power addict to learn: no structure of domination can permanently settle a wound that is fundamentally about being human among other humans. What the appetite keeps resisting is enoughness. It resists limits, succession, peerhood, accountability, and any evidence that power cannot finally deliver what it promised. But it also resists the harder truth that the appetite may not actually be for power in the abstract. It may be for safety, dignity, nonhumiliation, significance, or immunity, all of which power can mimic without ever fully providing. Under the acquisition, the title chase, the endless platform growth, and the impossible need to still be the one everyone must go through, the real hunger is enough control that the self never has to feel small, exposed, or overridable again. Call it simple success and you miss the mechanism. The power addict is not always cartoonishly evil. Sometimes they are trying to solve an old helplessness with larger and larger circles of command. But if that appetite goes unexamined, they keep swallowing territory, people, and institutions looking for a floor that power by itself can never build. That's the Appetite. Every behavior is a fucking hunger signaling once you learn how to read it, and once you see the craving underneath, the excuse on top starts sounding a lot less convincing.